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October 10, 2021

When Cassie first arrived at the retreat, she felt alone. After all, she was the only one there from her family and she didn’t know anyone. But as the first evening went on, she realized her situation wasn’t that different from the others in the group.

October 3, 2021

Cassie called one day last week. Her mom was bugging her again about her hair and her weight, and she had had enough. On top of that, her husband made fun of her in response to her mom’s comments, rather than supporting her, his wife.

September 26, 2021

Every fall, as the leaves start falling to the ground and the northern hemisphere prepares to go into hibernation, we in the BALM (Be A Loving Mirror) program hold a retreat that we watch breath new life into families, using the BALM’s core process for healing relationships: The 7 Steps to Be A Loving Mirror.

September 19, 2021

Certain days and times of the year feel different than others. Whether it’s the anniversary of one’s recovery, a birthday of a person who is still with us or no longer with us, a holiday in one’s faith tradition, the anniversary of the first time we met the love of our life, or the anniversary of the first day we found out about a loved one’s illness that led to their passing, these days stay with us.

September 13, 2021

In the BALM Community, where we work throughout the year to bring recovery to families and loved ones across the globe, every day is about awareness and every month is recovery month. Yet, it is valuable to set aside time to pay special attention to how to avoid the tragedy of overdose and to celebrate the possibility of recovery.

September 6, 2021

Faith is a beautiful thing. It gets us through hurricanes, tornadoes, fires, robberies, illness, and other God- and man-made challenges. If we live through these situations, we often realize at a certain point, that our God (whatever we refer to it as) is bigger than any fearful thing that comes our way.

August 30, 2021

Awareness is, in and of itself, what mindfulness is all about. There are, of course, other segments of my daily practice: focus on the breath, focus on the body, focus on thoughts, focus on the silence. All of these add together to create an inner stillness in the midst of both inner and outer activity.

August 23, 2021

Relapse can be a nightmare, not only for the person experiencing it, but also for the family members impacted. In fact, sometimes, when the loved one is numbed enough, it is more of a nightmare for the family members as they go through it without being medicated.

August 16, 2021

If you have discovered the presence of addiction in your family, whether for the first or fourteenth time, your first reaction may be shock or it may be resignation.

In the BALM®, we say, You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it and you can’t cure it. BUT you CAN contribute to their recovery!

August 2, 2021

How To Help An Alcoholic Spouse Consider a Life in Recovery (Part Two)

To contribute to recovery is to know that addiction to alcohol, drugs, eating, sex, gambling, are all treatable maladies. As a person in long term recovery from alcoholism once shared with me, “When I was drinking, I told everyone I was choosing to drink. In reality, I had no choice at all. Once I initially ‘chose’ alcohol, it chose me, over and over and over again, until I was able to stop. “

In his case that stop came after 16 years, when his wife let him know she would no longer share her life with alcohol. The declaration, followed by actions to back it up, helped him make a decision to live his life with her, rather than with alcohol as well.

 

August 2, 2021

How To Help An Alcoholic Spouse Consider a Life in Recovery (Part One)

To contribute to recovery is to know that addiction to alcohol, drugs, eating, sex, gambling, are all treatable maladies. As a person in long term recovery from alcoholism once shared with me, “When I was drinking, I told everyone I was choosing to drink. In reality, I had no choice at all. Once I initially ‘chose’ alcohol, it chose me, over and over and over again, until I was able to stop. “

In his case that stop came after 16 years, when his wife let him know she would no longer share her life with alcohol. The declaration, followed by actions to back it up, helped him make a decision to live his life with her, rather than with alcohol as well.